Thoughts on dating

I guess today is the day in which I comment on other people’s blog posts.  The Anti-Jared posted today about a question he received via email.  From the message of the post, I believe the gist of the email is that someone had told this person they wouldn’t sleep with them unless they lost so much weight.  Or it could have been a promise to sleep with the person if they lost the weight.  It’s not entirely clear from the blog post, but either way the answer was if the person did not want to be with you at your current weight, then that person is not worth being with you at your goal weight.

In general, I agree with this.  I personally haven’t encountered anyone that blew me off when I was 300+ pounds now all of a sudden showing interest, but I would be wary of anyone who did.  However, I wouldn’t necessarily blow that person off now.  It depends on why they weren’t interested in the fatter me.  If it was just an aversion to fat people, then yeah, that person isn’t worth my time.  But as I’ve said a number of times here, my physical appearance isn’t the only thing changing here.  I’m much more confident and willing to take risks than I was a year ago, or even a few months ago.  If it is these changes that have peaked the interest of the girl previously not interested in me, then I wouldn’t hold that against her.

Online dating

So, yeah, I tried online dating. I’m not sure I’m the online dating type, but this attempt definitely did not work out for me.  I made the profile.  Searched through the various female profiles for possible matches.  Found some interesting prospects and messaged them.  And then silence.  I did that 10-15 times before I decided to stop.

I’d be hurt by the rejection, but it’s really not that big of a deal.  Some girl read my profile and decided not to respond.  I never responded to anyone that initially contacted me (because they were weird), so I guess I can’t really blame them.  I think I am more of a meet someone in person type of guy rather than this whole awkward online thing anyway.  Maybe I’ll try again in a few months.  We’ll see.

To me, the main point is that I was confident enough to try.  Since gaining a lot of weight I somewhat put my dating life in the backseat.  It was much easier that way.  So just the fact that I was willing to put myself out there again is a step in the right direction.  With each successive step in this thing I’m doing I get more and more confident in myself.  Maybe that will translate into more successes in my personal life.  Maybe not.  Who really knows?  But at least I’m trying.